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1. Oven
2. Stand mixer. My dream is to own a RED (so gorgeous, the colour!) KitchenAid but it costs two bombs.
3. Coin spoons from Ireland. (Click to see blog post and picture)



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Monday, November 24, 2014


*says in sagely voice* The season and age of weddings are upon us. So much so that I am starting to dream about them, sometimes it's others' weddings, sometimes it's mine. WHAT. o.O

I half want to be a part of it, and half don't.

Even if I want to be a part of it, I know I don't want it to be now. But I don't want it to be too late either.

Every so often I think about childbirth and go oh my god I don't know how centuries of women have done it before me and my uterus twists itself shut even more.

And then I see the elder of the two nephews I have on my paternal side (I am the second youngest cousin in the family so you can imagine how old the other cousins are) and I think, hmmmmmmmmm maaaaaaybeeeeeeeee I want a child like hiiiiiiimmmmmm......................

And it's always him that changes my mind HUR. I have so many younger cousins and nephews on the maternal side but sorry ah, none of you manage to sway me like he does. *pats you on back to console you*

Aiya. Back to my dreams I go ~ ~

Meanwhile I shall wait for a genetically all-rounded man to impress me and I have his sexy son. *cackles all the way back to my lair*

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Tuesday, November 18, 2014



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Sunday, November 16, 2014


Two days of fighting back against sexist misogynistic bullshit from privileged males with entitled inflated senses of self-worth.

This month's pre-menstrual symptom: angst. LOTS OF IT. Especially if triggered by sexist misogynistic bullshit.

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Friday, November 14, 2014

mantra to self

#1 May I always, to the best of my ability, think from others' perspectives , especially when they've had Things happen in their lives. Even if I have Things (but less serious Things) to handle in my own.

#2 Learn from others' mistakes, don't make them yourself.

#3 Be tactful.

#4 Think ahead. Anticipate alternative situations and their corresponding solutions.

#5 Temper your expectations. You let yourself feel a glimmer of something more and then see, unforseen circumstances.

#6 Spoil yourself more.

#7 Protect your heart.

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Wednesday, November 12, 2014


Got news at 7.15am which somehow unconsciously impaired my think-of-alternative-scenarios-and-how-to-act-on-them skills although I was okay outwardly.

Also got two unexpected things which made me ????? and slightly hurt (emotionally) respectively.


The next few weeks are going to be... change plans / change plans / that? nope / postpone this etc.


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Tuesday, November 11, 2014


Signs you are a FULL-FLEDGED ADULT by the eyes of the law:

your parent gets a letter informing them that since their child has hit the ripe old age of __, they can consider switching the payee of said child's insurance premiums to said child from now so that they can save their nest egg for their own purposes.


No no. I'm a child-adult, not ADULT-adult. *dives into pile of leaves*

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Saturday, November 08, 2014


Recent events have got me thinking, what kind of persona do I exude?

(You can tell things gon' get serious because I used the words PERSONA and EXUDE.)

Ever since I was 9 till up to the first year of university (i.e. TEN GOLDEN YEARS), I was sooooo not confident. Mainly because my teeth were bleah. I went through so many variations of having to make room in my mouth so that I could get braces, but even after that it was only less bleah. It was only after the first year of uni that my teeth were finally OKAY, to me. Not grand, but OKAY. And that was GRAND enough for me. I also realised after a year of wearing home clothes to school that I still infinitely preferred if I did not just wear a spaghetti strap top to school - I swam so much when I was younger that my shoulders were broader than I like them and wearing spaghetti strap tops and exposing these broad bits really did not do wonders to my already not-spectacular confidence. So I wore cardigans over it. SO PRACTICAL FOR THE FREEZING LECTURE THEATRES TOO PLEASE. As a result, okay teeth + comfortable attire = much more confident ruiqi than there ever was.

It was also around that time that I started sensing (and I have a GREAT sense for this) that I was attracting attention from the older-by-varying-ages male population. Oh I didn't know that I was SUCH a charmer. *flick hair* (sarcasm obviously)

I did not reciprocate.

(Well, all but one HEYOOO *self-fives*)

I have always been SO awkward around males because as soon as I think there will be some unrequited feelings on either end I'm wayyy out of there before you can say 'hello'. And then probably the most ironic of all, and I've mentioned several times before too in the past, is that I became more confident speaking with males after becoming unavailable. And then the number of times I've had to get out of anything also increased.....

Best message of the week goes to M: "Because some people have a cerebral cortex that's apparently not working well and it functions more like a decoration for their head".

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Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ❀ RUIQI ★♥♦♣♠


The name is Rui Qi (pronounced 'Ray Chee', 'q' has a ch- sound like that in 'chair'). But I have also heard enough manglings of my name to respond to anything that you may wish to call, so you're in luck there.

Has a "lively playful disposition that delight[s] in anything ridiculous", wants to be a "beautiful little fool".

Introductory posts you may wish to read first: #1; #2

The past me decided on this childish name of a blog link, the present me is slightly regretful but is still a sentimental mess.

Don't take what I say at face value, don't read too much into things, either. If you read Chinese, 不要对号入座也别胡思乱想.

I am an agnostic/non-theist.

"Before you assume, learn the facts. Before you judge, understand why. Before you hurt someone, feel. Before you speak, think."

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TL;DR: you cannot republish any or part of my posts at all, but if you ask me for permission and I grant it, you can do whatever you please with it. Sounds fair innit.




JAPAN 2011

6 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #1
6 July 2011 Day 1: the start of the matcha float obsession
7 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #2
7 July 2011 Day 2: of places not worth going
8 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #3
8 July 2011 Day 3: the love/hate relationship with the word 押
9 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #4
9 July 2011 Day 4: of the well water I should not have drunk
10 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #5
10 July 2011 Day 5: burnt and fried
11 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #6
11 July 2011 Day 6: royalty, gold and luck
12 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #7
12 July 2011 Day 7: of 散心 and a lot of writing
13 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #8
13 July 2011 Day 8: of deer and drama
14 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #9
14 July 2011 Day 9: distinctively Japanese
15 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #10
15 July 2011 Day 10: vermillion and socially awkwardness
16 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #11
16 July 2011 Day 11: speed
17 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #12
17 July 2011 Day 12: red-faced, distress and weri cute xiong mao
18 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #13
18 July 2011 Day 13: Idontwannagohome!
19 July 2011 Day 14: sayonara sakura



Being slightly narcissistic here, but these are the blog entries I like/you should read.

The Hot Girl's Defense
one setting, two stories
flowers make me happy :)
how NOT to make an origami Eevee
botak pantai
the alternate marriage vow
the wisest words are said by children
family ♡♡♡
now the holly bears a berry
a decade on...
yukata FTW
toadally awesome
of sexting and pick-up lines
of vlogging and blogging
"you're going to scald your baby next time"
the sociological perspective
letting go
no work and all play
seeking perfection
save the day
the joys of driving
of quotes and thoughts
killjoy + joy
the send-off + outtakes
stream of consciousness x 7
balloons love
celebrities galore
to come up with marvellous ideas, eat duck rice
of music and lyrics PR
Carmen - the epitome of feminism
mind your grammar, please
tres amusing
let nature take its course
sunshine after the rain
it's up to the Powerpuff Girls to save the day!
the perks/perils of black stockings
"endearing hug"
thinking deep thoughts
convincing writing like never before
lost in translation
drink drank drunk
you believe because you believe
"love never dies"
they deserve a post to themselves
must be the funnest recess/exam week ever
this should have been highlight of the year too, I killed a cockroach! - cooking/screaming up a storm
it actually deserves an update, but here's letter to my 16-year-old self
privacy in the online world? forget it
word of the day: exposure
maybe we should get back, to the old days
of blogging
happy birthday, you inanimate thing


Inspiration from everywhere, including my previous blog templates.
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