Disclaimer: T suggested this; I'm not so bhb.

1. Oven
2. Stand mixer. My dream is to own a RED (so gorgeous, the colour!) KitchenAid but it costs two bombs.
3. Coin spoons from Ireland. (Click to see blog post and picture)



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Tuesday, August 02, 2016


Lost pendant. Family. Tay mums. Money. Work. Research. Stress. Food allergies. Weddings. Pre-wedding traditions. Insurance. Partners. Psychosomatic stress. Companionship. Depression.

R biaojie asked me out for lunch today. It was nice. I wanted to touch more on the last topic, there wasn't enough time. Next time eh, next time.


pretty little red butterfly.
9:50 pm

Tuesday, July 12, 2016


Hello, neglected space due to being somewhat of a "known figure", how are you?

I'm well, just attended the graduation ceremony for my M.Soc.Sci degree. More letters and dots on my namecard. (Only on my namecard.) So happy for L and her Ph.D. We kept joking that we are going to reserve tables at places with Dr _ for each other if/when we both can call ourselves that. So far it's only her, so I can keep doing it to embarrass her :D

Emperor took an orange balloon, Empress took a blue one and then threw in some streamers for good measure. So now I have two balloons floating about the room. I realise I quite like having them around. They provide me some form of entertainment when I feel like throwing them around and when I get bored they are low-maintenance and just sit there waiting to be played with next. Like pets, minus the living element and the fact that animals are waaayyy high-maintenance. Okay soz I do not advocate throwing pets around. Don't mind me, I'm not an animal person.

Every few weeks for the past few months I get into a CLEAN UP funk and start clearing away and tidying everything in my room. I have since given away two bags of clothes and have a third lying on the floor waiting for me to add a cardigan in. They are not the huge massive trash bags that I see in YouTube clearing-wardrobe videos though, just the average clothes shopping bags. I always wonder how come those people can fill up like 10 of those trash bags - where do they have the space to store 10 trash bags' worth of clothes in their house?! Their apartment does not look super big! I have also made several rough paper stacks for maximum printing and doodling efficiency. I still have lots to clear but inertia. One day, I will get around to doing them. One day.


My favourite thing to do now is to kill people with kindness. Karma helps me take revenge, I don't have to do the dirty work. ✌


I need to plan to go on holiday somewhere. I have no plans at all for this year, because last year I thought that this year I might be off elsewhere. We'll seeeee.

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pretty little red butterfly.
12:21 pm

Tuesday, April 05, 2016


Sometimes, I wonder what we are teaching when we open the feedback channels so widely and allow everything to flow through. Of course feedback is good, we are not an authoritarian state where everything the higher-ups say is law and there is no room for negotiation, especially when there is the possibility of being wrong. So having to be kept in check is good for all.

But what are the costs? Are there any? Are the occasional pearls worth it for the all the noise we have to sift through?


pretty little red butterfly.
9:13 pm

Wednesday, March 02, 2016



My name is Rui Qi,

Jane of all trades, Master of none in Psychology.

(I waited three years and spent an extra few thousand dollars to prepare for the day I can say this joke. The day is today. Worth it.)

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11:21 pm

Thursday, January 28, 2016



8-hour talk-a-lot days are really no joke.

I give 110% in classes so by the end of the day I am all exhausted. Wooo is this semester gon' be a wild riiiiide.

In other news,

I'm done.

And so it goes.

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11:25 pm

Monday, January 04, 2016


New Year started with seeing the Christmas Wonderland lights at Gardens by the Bay. The lights were pretty, the company was pretty (*cackle*), everything was pretty.

First day of school/work for most people, not me. I'm not feeling too bouncy, the feeling should pass. I am still editing editing editing. And listening to the YES 933 Top 100 Countdown in reverse order. Hebe's 小幸运 is tops!! YES LA it only came out in the last quarter of the year and it climbed alllllll the way up. Yoohoo.

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6:00 pm

Thursday, December 31, 2015

goodbye and hello

Hello, it's me.

What a year of non-blogging this is eh.

As alluded to in previous posts, I am now in a position where it's not so convenient to put my soul up online anymore. I've been mostly posting thesis updates, because that's the only thing that's still inherently 'mine', the other things I am in charge of relate with other people, therefore the radio silence for the most part.

2015, you've been better than 2014 as far as I can remember. This was what I wrote at the end of last year:
May I just have peace and tranquility in the new year, I don't need anything grand. Getting older ah, my heart cannot take it. Hur.
Thank you gods and goddesses for granting that this year has indeed mostly been peace and tranquility. I would like to maintain it please.

This year, I've also done much more yoga than ever, although I have not done in the last few weeks because I take a break every time the period comes and then the last few days I've not been home or been lazy ha. Next year I hope to keep up the yoga!

Highlight of this year was definitely the two weeks in the UK in July. It was a great grad trip of sorts. I still cannot have a proper "grad trip" it seems, they are always "of sorts" ha. Getting to revisit my beloved Cambridge was surreal. We were able to tolerate each other in those two weeks, let's hope this continues. To us! *clinks champagne glasses*

Goodbye, 2015. Hello 2016, you should be interesting. Bring it!

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12:31 pm

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The name is Rui Qi (pronounced 'Ray Chee', 'q' has a ch- sound like that in 'chair'). But I have also heard enough manglings of my name to respond to anything that you may wish to call, so you're in luck there.

Has a "lively playful disposition that delight[s] in anything ridiculous", wants to be a "beautiful little fool".

Introductory posts you may wish to read first: #1; #2

The past me decided on this childish name of a blog link, the present me is slightly regretful but is still a sentimental mess.

Don't take what I say at face value, don't read too much into things, either. If you read Chinese, 不要对号入座也别胡思乱想.

I am an agnostic/non-theist.

"Before you assume, learn the facts. Before you judge, understand why. Before you hurt someone, feel. Before you speak, think."

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JAPAN 2011

6 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #1
6 July 2011 Day 1: the start of the matcha float obsession
7 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #2
7 July 2011 Day 2: of places not worth going
8 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #3
8 July 2011 Day 3: the love/hate relationship with the word 押
9 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #4
9 July 2011 Day 4: of the well water I should not have drunk
10 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #5
10 July 2011 Day 5: burnt and fried
11 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #6
11 July 2011 Day 6: royalty, gold and luck
12 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #7
12 July 2011 Day 7: of 散心 and a lot of writing
13 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #8
13 July 2011 Day 8: of deer and drama
14 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #9
14 July 2011 Day 9: distinctively Japanese
15 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #10
15 July 2011 Day 10: vermillion and socially awkwardness
16 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #11
16 July 2011 Day 11: speed
17 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #12
17 July 2011 Day 12: red-faced, distress and weri cute xiong mao
18 July 2011 Nippon nuggets #13
18 July 2011 Day 13: Idontwannagohome!
19 July 2011 Day 14: sayonara sakura



Being slightly narcissistic here, but these are the blog entries I like/you should read.

The Hot Girl's Defense
one setting, two stories
flowers make me happy :)
how NOT to make an origami Eevee
botak pantai
the alternate marriage vow
the wisest words are said by children
family ♡♡♡
now the holly bears a berry
a decade on...
yukata FTW
toadally awesome
of sexting and pick-up lines
of vlogging and blogging
"you're going to scald your baby next time"
the sociological perspective
letting go
no work and all play
seeking perfection
save the day
the joys of driving
of quotes and thoughts
killjoy + joy
the send-off + outtakes
stream of consciousness x 7
balloons love
celebrities galore
to come up with marvellous ideas, eat duck rice
of music and lyrics PR
Carmen - the epitome of feminism
mind your grammar, please
tres amusing
let nature take its course
sunshine after the rain
it's up to the Powerpuff Girls to save the day!
the perks/perils of black stockings
"endearing hug"
thinking deep thoughts
convincing writing like never before
lost in translation
drink drank drunk
you believe because you believe
"love never dies"
they deserve a post to themselves
must be the funnest recess/exam week ever
this should have been highlight of the year too, I killed a cockroach! - cooking/screaming up a storm
it actually deserves an update, but here's letter to my 16-year-old self
privacy in the online world? forget it
word of the day: exposure
maybe we should get back, to the old days
of blogging
happy birthday, you inanimate thing


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